2018 has been heralded as a ‘rough year’. So rough, in fact, that many media outlets (and tweets and Facebook posts) have crowned it the… Worst. Year. Ever. Many can’t wait to say good riddance to the Worst Year Ever, many already have, over and over again.
I get it, I do. There has been so much tragedy, devastation, disappointment and death this year.
All of the above have caused great sadness for many, and I absolutely do not want to downplay any of that. It has been an unusual and very difficult year for many people (and for so many different reasons across the globe) and I do acknowledge that.
What I don’t want to acknowledge is that we talk about it as the Worst Year Ever. Yes, there has been tragedy and devastation and death. But what about all the good stuff that’s happened too? What about all the good stuff that happens in our world (and in our lives) every day?
If you’re feeling down from all the horrible news of 2018, you’re not alone. We’ve all been dragged into a bubble of bad news and it’s hard not to ignore it.
We are suckers for bad news and our social media streams and media outlets just amplify it. I’m not saying we should ignore it, but when one person (or an organisation) declares 2018 as the Worst Year Ever it ripples; everyone focuses on the bad stuff, people only talk about and remember the bad stuff.
The good stuff gets forgotten.
Yeah, sometimes it’s hard to see the good stuff in all the bad, but it’s always there, ALWAYS (even if you have to look a little harder some days).
Tonight my daughter and I were practising our daily gratitude before bedtime and we started to share the things we were grateful for today; my daughter was getting cross, saying she couldn’t think of anything. I pushed her slightly to think a little harder, ‘so nothing good happened today, nothing at all, nothing made you smile or laugh?’ I gave her a bit longer to think.
She took a few moments and said, ‘Can I choose something not from today, but that is for today?’
I wasn’t really sure what she meant but I encouraged her to carry on anyway.
‘I’m grateful for the day I was born to you mummy, so I could be with you everyday and right now.’
We often take the things that really deserve our gratitude for granted; the gift of life being one.
Life is always going to contain a little darkness; we’ll have bad moments, bad days and bad weeks. But it’s up to us to decide whether or not to recognise and appreciate the light on those days too.
“The more often we see the things around us – even the beautiful and wonderful things – the more they become invisible to us. That is why we often take for granted the beauty of this world: the flowers, the trees, the birds, the clouds – even those we love. Because we see things so often, we see them less and less.” Joseph B. Wirthlin
Don’t forget about the beautiful and wonderful things you saw or did in 2018. The laughter, the love. The sunshine and the rain. A smile or a helping hand from a stranger, a compliment or a hug. An act of kindness or support from another. Or that day you just breathed. They all matter.
They ALL made 2018 a good year.
2018 was a good year.